Romance ideas for Marriage Counseling

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Better Relationship through Erectile Dysfunction (ED) Yep, You Read it Right.

By Yvonne Sinclair M.A.

Picture this: soft lights, comfy bed, glass of something tasty, freshly showered bodies, loving couple, and soft music. Yep, we are getting some tonight. But the little man is napping. Now the big man keeps thinking, “Any minute now he will get with the program because I am ready.” Big man’s partner is thinking, “Maybe I need to think of something new to do.” In any case, the little man is not playing. Now we know that hot sex can happen without an erection. We can pleasure and enjoy and orgasm without the penis ever getting hard. However, it is nice when little man is in on the fun.

I stumbled onto (well, okay, I was looking) a site called “Ask Men.” I found information about sex and erectile dysfunction. Maybe you didn’t know, and maybe you suspected, but these facts about sex are outstanding.

*Sex relieves stress, lowers cortisol levels, and reduces our risk of stress-related diseases.

*Sex is exercise, and we all know the benefits of exercise for cardiovascular health and weight control. Rigorous sex can burn about 200 calories.

*British researchers have found that sex increases longevity, boosts immune function, and improves our sense of smell.

*You cannot overdose on sex; in this instance, more actually is better.

*Sex releases endorphins, and they help to control pain.

*Orgasmic sex promotes prostate health, according to some studies.

Perhaps we can throw out the treadmill, cancel the gym, sell the elliptical, and just grab our partner. That will be more fun, and it will nurture our relationship. Instead of telling the buds at lunch, “I did an hour workout on the treadmill this morning,” we can announce, “We enjoyed an hour of great, orgasmic, pain-reducing, endorphin-enhancing sex this morning.””

All of this is true, but unfortunately, the treadmill just turns on.

Humans do not work as automatically. When erectile dysfunction occurs, the fun stops. An erection is a complicated thing. It is tied to emotional well being, physical and mental health, situation, and little voices in our head. A woman has it easier; she just has to show up. Of course, women have sexual challenges, also. However, the challenges are not as obvious as a lack of erection.

Read more about steamy hot sex without an erection; http://www.marriagecounseling4u.com/ed

Monday, September 5, 2011

Six for Sex: Six Tips for a Better Love Life

By Yvonne Sinclair M.A.

That first glow of in love sometimes gets lost in the job of daily living. When children are added, it may seem you then ride the train to nowhere. Your relationship with your spouse gets lost in the muck of breakfast, getting kids up and dressed, off to work and school, back again with homework, soccer, karate, sleepovers, play dates, dinner, laundry, pets, and on and on...

Find out how to stop the frustrating merry-go-round and get some love for you and your partner..

Six for Sex: Six Tips for a Better Love Life

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

10 Tips to Make This Summer the Summer of Love

By Rosemary Black

The weather's not all that heats up in the summer. This can also be the season of love, whether you're single and looking for a relationship or in a committed partnership.

"Summer's a great time to develop a new relationship or to spice up the one that you already have," says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. "Summer brings with it such a sense of optimism."

Here's how to make this the steamiest summer ever in terms of romance.

1. Make the weather work to your advantage. Open your doors and windows to the warm breezes, put flowers everywhere, and inhale deeply. "Summer has such wonderful smells," Orbuch says. "And positive smells can increase the attraction between two people."

2. Shed those winter blues and resolve to be optimistic. "Just waking up to sunshine can have a positive effect on mood," Orbuch says. "And that optimism rubs off on other people as well." It's natural to want to be close to someone who's got a sunny, positive outlook on life, so strive for an upbeat attitude.

3. Summer's the perfect opportunity to show a little more skin, so make every inch count. Wear strapless tops in flattering colors, flirty sundresses, strappy sandals, and, of course, bathing suits. And there's nothing wrong with adding a fun, floppy hat to your outfit.

4. If you can afford it, take a weekend share in a summer rental with a group of singles. "A summer house is a great way to meet people," says Brooke Wise, MBA, founder of Wise Matchmaking. "You're all in a house together by the beach, and weekend relationships can turn into serious relationships when the fall comes."

5. Use your creative juices to add an element of surprise into activities that can increase passion and romance. Plan a couples massage night, go to a wine tasting together, or stay up late watching erotic videos together.

6. If you're going out on a first date with someone, schedule something that takes advantage of the gorgeous weather. "Plan a picnic outside, or go to an arboretum," Orbuch says. "It's a little out of the ordinary and chances are it will help you reach your goal, which is a second date."

7. If you're single, take advantage of outdoor activities, like rooftop bars, movies in the park, and hiking clubs.

8. If you're a couple, take advantage of slower work schedules to do something together that you've been putting off due to lack of time. "Plan a getaway to a bed and breakfast," Wise says. "Or take a picnic to the park, just the two of you."

9. If you're a couple and you're feeling as if things are getting ho-hum and stale, plan something exciting together. Take a road trip, go up in a hot air balloon, or take a plane ride that lasts for at least two hours before you reach your destination, Wise says. That way, you'll feel far enough away from the kids to really relax together. (There's no time like the summer, when the kids are out of school, to leave them with grandparents for a few days.)

10. If you're single, save up and go on a singles trip, Wise suggests. "A trip to a faraway land, where you're traveling with others who are single, is a great way to meet someone," she says.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Happily Ever After Story

I Don’t Love You Any More
by Thurman C. Petty, Jr.

Early in my ministry I became so eager to succeed in as a pastor that I worked for the church from 14 to 18 hours a day, seven days a week. I seldom ate with my family or spent any time with them except at church functions. I saw our daughter Lydia in the morning when I sent her off to school. I pecked my wife Martha on the cheek as I left for some church responsibility. And I often came home late at night after the rest of the family had gone to bed.

Then one horrible day I realized that Martha hadn't told me she loved me for a long time. I asked her why. She told me, quite frankly, 'Because I don't.' That came as a shock to me, because I thought we had a good marriage based on love. So why didn't she love me anymore?

During the next few days I began to realize that I had been the guilty culprit. I had driven away Martha's love by my lack of attention, my ceaseless work, and my selfish grasp for the goodwill of the church. I'd spent so much time with my work that I didn't even know her anymore and it was just as obvious that she no longer knew me. What should I do? I still loved Martha. I didn't want to lose her!

About that time I received a call to pastor a two- church district in another state. The ministerial secretary (pastor’s director) had been a close friend of the family whom I had known for many years. One day I told him: 'I've got a problem with my marriage. Martha says she doesn't love me any more. I think I need some time to work this out.'

'That's all right with me,' he said. 'Whatever time it takes, you should spend it.'

And so I began to spend about half of my time with Martha―doing things with her we'd always enjoyed. We worked together, shopped together, played games together, assembled picture puzzles together, went out to eat together. All during this time I didn't know if I was reaching her heart, if she was growing to love me again.

And then one glorious day Martha came to me and said, 'I love you'―for the first time in over two years. I'll never forget the relief that flooded my heart and my thankfulness to God for bringing us together in love once more.

I decided right then that, God help me, Id never again allow our love to become estranged. And so today I spend a lot of time with Martha, time well spent on nurturing our family life. I know what it's like to lose the love of someone I treasure very dearly, and I don't want that to ever happen again.

That was over 40 years ago, and we’ve had some rough times since then. But we’ve pulled together and kept it going. Today we’re retired in Montana, thoroughly enjoying our time together. We’ll have our 50th anniversary in August of 2010. Praise God from Whom all blessings flow.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Been two years....WOW been busy.

Sometimes a little romance can go a really long way. A loving touch on the check, a sweet word on support, a look of connection, can all be romantic and deepen the emotional intimacy in a relationship. That soul mate connection feel so wonderful. What is hard to remember, is that during the work of living and keeping up with the pace of this current world, those wonderful moments that keep the soul mate connection and deepen the emotional intimacy happen less and less often. Paying attention to our relationship and the feelings of our partner help to keep the connection firm. CARE that is the word for today. It is, in my eyes, the most romantic word in the English language. Think about it, how romantic it is to have someone really truely care about you. Someone who cares about what you think and feel and crave. Someone who is in a loving relationship with you and cares enough to work at deepening the connection you have. Give the CARE word a chance, and remember those little things that deepen the emotionally intimacy of your relationship.

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Light his Fire

Men need to know they are loved and they enjoy being pampered too. Ask your man what he would like. Men may like you to;

*Notice Him
*Notice his taking care of things...any things...you get what you notice.
*Notice his shoulders, arms, eyes, cute butt....hwatever you think is "fine."
*See the "light her fire" list for ideas for him also.
*Dress sexy (the way he thinks is sexy) for him.
*Buy a large feather and use your imagination. Perhaps "tie" him up with a scarf and use the feather allllll over him.
*Smell good.
*Snuggling with him in the middle of the night can be romantic, whether it leads to sex or not.
*Meet him at the car, if your are home first, with a glass of something nice to drink and a "Hello" kiss. Just because!!

Use your great imagination. Have fun with this. Be ready for the love you get back.

Light her Fire

Try these ideas to light her fire. If you want to know what your woman wants ask her.

*Kissing
*Touching
*Candlelight
*Soft Music
*Good smells
*Some effort to create a romantic atmosphere
*Non-Sexual touching; hugging, massage, caresses
*Tell her she is sexy
*Tell her she is loved...outloud with words
*Turn off the TV and turn onto her
*Talk to her about-everything/anything
*Plan a picnic - alone with her (even if it is on the living room floor)
*Gentle kisses and almost sexual touching until she begs for more
*Undress her-not inthe bedroom- and very very slowly, paying attention to each layer
*See "Light his fire" for more ideas.

Take your time with all of this and any other ideas you have. Make pleasure the goal. Have fun and Enjoy.